Mar/071
on your terms
I’ve never quited understood how people can be your friends on their terms. It seems almost contradictory. How is there a give and take with people when you are constantly giving to meet their demands? Is it bad to question, and realize that maybe the friendship isn’t exactly what you need out of life. Is it bad that you get tired of conceding? Where do you go when you have things on your mind that you need help sorting out?
I’ve got a friend who fits that bill, and where he knows a lot about me and we have a somewhat close friendship. But he’s only there when he has the opportunity to be there. When you need someone and it doesn’t fit his schedule he can’t help.
Do you take the friendship and let it die, or do you take the friendship and take it as it is, slowly realizing that maybe not every friend can fit the mold you desire?
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16:54 on March 13th, 2007
Not sure I consider people like that ‘friends’. I find a lot of people are quick to use the term ‘friend’ when they’re just… people you know, barely acquaintances. Friendship goes much deeper to me.
I know far too many people like the one you described. I don’t consider them friends. Everyone has their own things going on, friends make time.